Anal play is a sexual activity that involves the stimulation of the anus. Women have embraced anal play since the 90s while heterosexual men are just starting to warm up to the idea. The dialogue on masculinity is mainly responsible for this shift in mindset in heterosexual men.

Couples who want to introduce anal play in the bedroom should know a few things:

Lube up

The anal region does not self-lubricate like the vagina. Dry anal sex can lead to small tears, which increase your risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases.

Having a lubricant on hand prevents these small tears from happening. The lubricant should be thick enough so that you do not have to whip it out regularly

Use protection

This point is connected to the first. The chances of a tear during anal play are there, and it is exceptionally high when you are both beginners. Using protection prevents you from contracting STIs and HIV.

Even monogamous couples are encouraged to use protection every time they engage in anal plays.

Start small

The sphincters in our bodies can stretch. However, they need to be slowly stretched over time for them to be able to accommodate larger objects.

You can do this by using small toys or your fingers. Work on pleasuring yourself until the sphincter stretches to the right size.

You might bleed a little

As mentioned earlier, anal tears are pretty common when it comes to anal play. You might bleed a little when this happens. Doctors have said that this is normal and you should not be alarmed when it happens.

It is critical to note that not all tears lead to bleeding. Some are so small that you might not even notice them.

However, profuse bleeding is a sign that something is wrong and you should consult a doctor as soon as possible.

Do not use anal desensitizers

The pain during anal play can get in the way of pleasure. As such, many people are opting to use desensitizers to take the pain out of the equation.

This is a move that you should never try. Pain is your body’s way of saying that it is uncomfortable with something and should be immediately stopped. Using a desensitizing cream can lead to a situation where you are in so much pain later due to anal fissures that you were unable to feel during anal play.

Relaxing your muscles enhances the experience

Clenching your butt muscles only makes the situation more difficult. Relax your butt muscles the same you do when you are about to poop.


Enjoying anal play with your partner can be an experience that brings you together. The above information should be noted for an even better experience.